I’ve been debating whether or not to write about this all week because of the inherited challenges you deal with as a blogger by opening up your life to the world and writing about people who you know. But I experienced such a life changing moment that I have to talk about it. The whole incident has been playing over in my mind non-stop since it happened – like a You Tube video that won’t stop, making it difficult to get sleep. It really was a revelation.
I am working on a poem of this experience to capture the emotion and I haven’t written one for many years.
After last weekend I realized how special life is and how much love I have for the people around me that I instantly let go of all of the unimportant stuff that had been consuming me for some time. I’m a different person after last weekend’s wedding and I’m not alone. There is a lesson to be learned if not a higher appreciation of life gained.
Last weekend I was one of six bridesmaids in one of the best weddings ever. The flower girl was sweet as candy and the ring bearer stole everyone’s heart as he found his way down the isle dropping the pillow and picking it up over and over again.
The Bride was stunning in a princess style gown with a full skirt. The Groom glowed with love as she walked down the isle with bashful smiles and when her adoring father lifted her veil to present her to the groom. She was captured by her emotions and started laughing so she could prevent her tears – we laughed with her. She looked exceptionally gorgeous and very much in love. They said I do and it was perfect.
We headed to the reception with excitement and wanted to celebrate this new union. When we arrived, I was in awe. The ceiling was decorated with lights draped in white fabric and warm orange illuminations cast excitement onto the walls. The tables had tall vases with citrus colored flowers.
We took photos, we danced and we laughed like never before. I connected with friends that I haven’t seen in a long time and I connected with people I barely knew. I felt as if I didn’t have a care in the world. I made a fool of myself as I danced and I didn’t care. I had more fun at this wedding than I had in a long time. The night was incredibly magical. Everyone will remember this wedding for all of the above.
And then it all changed at about 12:30 am.
At the end of the night we were getting ready to send off the bride and groom. I went outside to wait and see the Bride and Groom waive their goodbyes.
The next thing I know, a car came out of nowhere and ran over the curb and hit the girl standing just a few feet from me! And then I watched the car jump all 4 wheels onto the sidewalk and slam into 3 more weddings guests. I looked up just in time to watch bodies flying through the air illuminated by the street lights all of which seemed to happen in slow motion. How is it you can go from the highest high to the lowest low?
It was such a disaster and there was nothing anyone could do about it – it happened so fast that many of us were in disbelief at first asking ourselves “is this real”? I called 911 along with many others in a panic. They were on the way but little did we know that there had been a nearby accident with a fatality so it took some time for them to respond. Thankfully we had several guests whom are first response fire fighters who took control of the situation.
Before help arrived I lost it. I cried my eyes out like I never have before. I had been standing only a few feet away from one of the victims. Only a few more steps and my life might be very different… I asked, “Why it was her and not me?”
I thought the girl who had been standing next to me was gone. She was non responsive with eyes wide open and wrapped around a pole and another two girls were moaning in pain in front of the car and later I discovered a guy had been thrown into some bushes. It was chaos.
The bride and groom came out. I saw the bride spin around in her beautiful dress with the lights flashing and she had tears of pain. I was angry. Why on their night? Why do they have to see this pain? I hated how helpless I felt over making it better. I hated that this happened on their day.
Fortunately everyone will be okay. There are no fatalities. Broken bones and scars but thank God everyone will be just fine. It is a truly a miracle.
After seeing this I am changed forever. My gratitude for the world we live in is only one of the changes that have come out of this; I can’t accept that the whole incident was “coincidence”. There are many dynamics at work here, and I am just trying to understand them all. I am thankful.